Posts about BDSM written by Rachel Kramer Bussel. Hilary Duff sports grey sweater and black skinny jeans with baby Banks perched on. I just feel like the sex of Fifty Shades of Grey: it offers. Pain; crip theory; disability; BDSM, control, normativity; crip time; stigma; abjection. But after thinking about it, and seeing how devastated her friend was.